Sex

New Year, New You?

New Year New You? That’s what all the advertisements say right now. It’s a new year, you should lose weight. It’s a new year, you should make more money. It’s a new year, it’s time to finally find a partner. It’s a new year, be [...]

New Year, New You? 2017-12-06T12:29:52+00:00

27 Alternatives To Asking “Is This Okay?”

When it comes to sexytimes, we all want to know if what we’re doing in bed is working for our partner. Unfortunately, knowing what or how to ask doesn’t always come as second nature. You fumble, try to read clues and more often [...]

27 Alternatives To Asking “Is This Okay?” 2017-12-06T12:30:38+00:00

How to Give Feedback During Sexytimes

So there you are, in bed, having an.... okay time. It's not that there's anything wrong exactly. It's just not... right either. Telling your partner you want something different during sex than what they’re doing can be terrify [...]

How to Give Feedback During Sexytimes 2017-12-08T19:38:01+00:00

Sex Culture Revolutionary: An Interview with Polly Superstar

(Originally published Feb 2015) I first met Polly Superstar in early 2008, when I was visiting San Francisco from New York. Scheduled to be there for nine weeks while teaching and taking classes, I somehow landed at (and basica [...]

Sex Culture Revolutionary: An Interview with Polly Superstar 2017-12-06T13:29:05+00:00

Relationship Survival At Burning Man – What You Need To Know

Dear Marcia, I’m going to Burning Man this year for the first time with my partner and I want to make sure our relationship doesn’t implode. What are some things we should watch out for? - Playa Bound Dear Playa Bound, Burning [...]

Relationship Survival At Burning Man – What You Need To Know 2017-12-08T19:33:27+00:00

16 Ways to Talk About Consent (That Are Pretty Sexy…)

Here's a stack of wonderful ways to check in with your partner, to find out more of what they want, and to communicate your own desires. Try some today! "Do you like when I...?" "I like when you..." "Will you...?" "How does thi [...]

16 Ways to Talk About Consent (That Are Pretty Sexy…) 2017-12-08T12:14:09+00:00

Embrace Your Erotic Creativity

Asking for what you want — in love, in sex, in relationships — requires creativity. Yet fear, shyness, and plain old being stuck in a rut can keep you from being creative in and out of the bedroom. Erotic creativ [...]

Embrace Your Erotic Creativity 2017-12-08T12:47:38+00:00

The Four Monogamies (Which Ones Matter To You?)

What is monogamy? Judging from the length of the Wikipedia entry, that's not a simple question to answer. Yet monogamy is a fundamentally assumed aspect of relationships in our culture, a starting point that is embraced (with v [...]

The Four Monogamies (Which Ones Matter To You?) 2017-12-08T13:14:18+00:00
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