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Give Yourself a Pat on the Back

Whether this year has been awful or glorious, messy or tidy, full of heartbreak or full of love, I hope you give yourself a pat on the back this week. One of my most important annual rituals is making a list of accomplishments [...]

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back 2018-07-01T16:40:22+00:00

I’d Rather Be Crazy

“What’s worse? Looking jealous or crazy? Jealous or crazy? Or like, being walked all over lately, walked all over lately, I’d rather be crazy.” This lyric from Beyonce’s album Lemonade (which she performed at the VMAs on Sunda [...]

I’d Rather Be Crazy 2018-07-01T16:44:24+00:00

Self-Care Is Not Optional

“Do you know the difference between indulgence and self care?” I looked into her tear-stained face. “No,” she said. “My whole life, it’s been about working my ass off, and then, when it gets to be too much, give myself a ‘trea [...]

Self-Care Is Not Optional 2018-07-01T16:59:27+00:00

New Year, New You?

New Year New You? That’s what all the advertisements say right now. It’s a new year, you should lose weight. It’s a new year, you should make more money. It’s a new year, it’s time to finally find a partner. It’s a new year, b [...]

New Year, New You? 2018-07-01T21:14:30+00:00

8 Ways to Hear a No Gracefully

The more you ask for what you want in your intimate life and daily life, the more you’re likely to hear both yesses and nos. Rejection can sting, but there’s also an opportunity to build connection when you can hear a no grace [...]

8 Ways to Hear a No Gracefully 2018-07-01T21:26:52+00:00

12 Ways To Say No Gracefully (Without Saying “Maybe Later”)

Grace: (n)simple elegance or refinement of movement; courteous goodwill. We all want connection. Saying no can feel terrifying, especially if you are afraid of losing connection with someone you care about. Rejecting someone y [...]

12 Ways To Say No Gracefully (Without Saying “Maybe Later”) 2018-07-01T21:29:45+00:00

21 Things to Stop Tolerating This Year

So we’re a few weeks into the new year, and by now your goals/resolutions/intentions are either sticking, or they’re not. If they are, great! Gold stars all around! If they’re not, it might be because you haven’t made room for [...]

21 Things to Stop Tolerating This Year 2018-07-01T21:34:11+00:00

16 Ways to Talk About Consent (That Are Pretty Sexy…)

Here's a stack of wonderful ways to check in with your partner, to find out more of what they want, and to communicate your own desires. Try some today! "Do you like when I...?" "I like when you..." "Will you...?" "How does th [...]

16 Ways to Talk About Consent (That Are Pretty Sexy…) 2018-07-01T21:44:25+00:00

What I mean when I talk about love is…

Love is confusing. It’s messy and unpredictable and wild and untamable. It obeys no laws, adheres to no restrictions. It’ll knock the socks off of you and everyone around you. And the wind out of you too. What with the wind an [...]

What I mean when I talk about love is… 2018-07-01T21:47:24+00:00
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